This is the story of a Nigerian guy who lived in London with his wife and children. He had problems with immigration, so he came back to Nigeria. He then met a lady whom he liked and they became close. He started taking her out and showering her with expensive gifts and he introduced her to his family.
He wanted more intimacy and he was not getting it. He complained that she was not having sex with him and he had invested in their relationship. She told him to be patient until they got married and he said that it was not possible. She later found out that he had a family in london.
Points:
1) He got close to a lady, but he wanted sex
2) She told him to be patient until they were married
3) She found out that he was married with children in London
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you living a life of lies?
Do you want to eat your cake and also have it?
Lessons: Love is about being open to the other person.Love compromises, you must not have your way with everything.This will save us from our broken relationships and marriages.
You need to look beyond your want and take into perspective the other person's feelings. For example, guys you don't have to force yourself on a lady to have sex with you.
Yes You Can:
Be Open
Be Truthful
Be Considerate
Programs Coming Up:
2alkaboutit Parent's Forum Is Coming Up Next Weekend. It aims to bridge the communication gap between parents and their children.
Theme: Can we talk about sex?
Please,What did your parents tell you about sex? Please send me a mail: Tosinfatung@gmail.com
Thursday, 7 February 2013
Wednesday, 6 February 2013
Love Is Not Rude
This is the story of a guy who liked a lady and he tried his best to impress her. He always called her, bought her gifts and tried asking her out but she was not interested in him. She was disturbed by his nice gestures, she told him to give her space. She was in a make-up training school, but she really did not plan on having a career in it. The guy bought the best and most expensive make-up kit for the lady; she however insulted him and was bent on having nothing to do with him.
Points:
1) The guy liked the lady
2) He tried to impress the lady
3) He was interested in her but she was not interested in him
4) He gave her nice gifts
5) She insulted him
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you communicate with people politely?
Do you give people gifts?
Lessons: You have to be polite to people, at all times. Sometimes, people invade into our privacy, but there are better ways to tell them. You don't have to be rude. You should be polite to people, irrespective of their age, class, title etc.
Yes You Can:
Be polite
Appreciate people
Give to people
Please Read 2alkaboutit everyday.
Gracias
Points:
1) The guy liked the lady
2) He tried to impress the lady
3) He was interested in her but she was not interested in him
4) He gave her nice gifts
5) She insulted him
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you communicate with people politely?
Do you give people gifts?
Lessons: You have to be polite to people, at all times. Sometimes, people invade into our privacy, but there are better ways to tell them. You don't have to be rude. You should be polite to people, irrespective of their age, class, title etc.
Yes You Can:
Be polite
Appreciate people
Give to people
Please Read 2alkaboutit everyday.
Gracias
Tuesday, 5 February 2013
Love Is Not Boastful
This is the story of a guy who always believed that, he could get any girl he wanted. He used to change girls regularly, he was a ladies man. He bragged about it to his friends until, he met this lady.He was full of himself that he will get the lady.The lady was young, naive and innocent, and he fell in love with her.They started a relationship.
She learnt communicating skills, dressing tips, negotiating skills from him.She was his very own student.Things went on smoothly until she started working.She started hanging out with an older man in the office.The man pampered her with lots of expensive gifts and care.Finally, she broke up with her initial boyfriend.
He was devastated, sad and heart-broken.g
Points:
1) He was the "Professional Player"
2) He was a ladies man
3) He fell in love
4) He taught her so many things
5) She started seeing an older man, who showered her with expensive gifts and care
6) She broke up with her initial boyfriend
7) He was heart-broken
Questions:
Do you think you are untouchable?
Do you think you can do things and get away with them?
Do you think that you are indispensable?
Do you think, you are so important?
Lessons: Pride goes before a fall. Most times, we get angry because of our pride.We think we are too fine, excellent,indispensable and smart.We now talk and behave like mini "gods".
Pride has no reward, but destruction.Work on your pride.
The first thing to do, is to accept that you are proud.Ask God to help you to be humble.Read books on humility.Walk with friends that believe in humility.
Therefore, Love is not boastful or proud.It is humble, always willing to look out for the other person.Love will not talk a person down or make the person feel worthless.
Yes You Can:
Work On Your Pride
Be Humble
Look out for people
Celebrate People
Please read and comment on 2alkaboutit everyday.
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She learnt communicating skills, dressing tips, negotiating skills from him.She was his very own student.Things went on smoothly until she started working.She started hanging out with an older man in the office.The man pampered her with lots of expensive gifts and care.Finally, she broke up with her initial boyfriend.
He was devastated, sad and heart-broken.g
Points:
1) He was the "Professional Player"
2) He was a ladies man
3) He fell in love
4) He taught her so many things
5) She started seeing an older man, who showered her with expensive gifts and care
6) She broke up with her initial boyfriend
7) He was heart-broken
Questions:
Do you think you are untouchable?
Do you think you can do things and get away with them?
Do you think that you are indispensable?
Do you think, you are so important?
Lessons: Pride goes before a fall. Most times, we get angry because of our pride.We think we are too fine, excellent,indispensable and smart.We now talk and behave like mini "gods".
Pride has no reward, but destruction.Work on your pride.
The first thing to do, is to accept that you are proud.Ask God to help you to be humble.Read books on humility.Walk with friends that believe in humility.
Therefore, Love is not boastful or proud.It is humble, always willing to look out for the other person.Love will not talk a person down or make the person feel worthless.
Yes You Can:
Work On Your Pride
Be Humble
Look out for people
Celebrate People
Please read and comment on 2alkaboutit everyday.
2alkaboutit: Real People, Real Issues, Real Lessons
Monday, 4 February 2013
Love Is Not Jealous
This is the story of a guy who loved helping people.No matter the amount he had, he was always willing to give.He always gave people benefit of doubt, even if they hurt him.He always supported and celebrated his friends during their achievements.He always said, that every man has his day of shining, so he has no reason to envy any man.He was very confident that, he was going to be a great man.
Points:
1) He loved helping people
2) He was a giver
3) He gave people the benefit of doubt
4) He supported and celebrated his friends achievements.
5) He was confident, that he will be Great.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you have Self- confidence?
Do you love to help people?
Do you give people benefit of doubt?
Do you celebrate and support your friends and family?
Lessons: Love is about celebrating with a person, especially during his or her success.The self- confidence you have can help you to appreciate yourself, then other people.
I noticed that when you tell someone that he or she is looking good, they think you are lying, maybe because they are not used to compliments or they think people are not sincere or they don't believe that you can be happy for them.
We need to be happy for people on the days of their success.Do not worry, you too will get there.You might even surpass them.
Remember, the race is not to the swift, neither the battle to the strong, but its just a matter of time and chance.
Identify your purpose,develop yourself, maximise opportunities and commit your plans to God.
Yes You Can:
Be self-confident
Help and support people
Celebrate people
Gracias
Points:
1) He loved helping people
2) He was a giver
3) He gave people the benefit of doubt
4) He supported and celebrated his friends achievements.
5) He was confident, that he will be Great.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you have Self- confidence?
Do you love to help people?
Do you give people benefit of doubt?
Do you celebrate and support your friends and family?
Lessons: Love is about celebrating with a person, especially during his or her success.The self- confidence you have can help you to appreciate yourself, then other people.
I noticed that when you tell someone that he or she is looking good, they think you are lying, maybe because they are not used to compliments or they think people are not sincere or they don't believe that you can be happy for them.
We need to be happy for people on the days of their success.Do not worry, you too will get there.You might even surpass them.
Remember, the race is not to the swift, neither the battle to the strong, but its just a matter of time and chance.
Identify your purpose,develop yourself, maximise opportunities and commit your plans to God.
Yes You Can:
Be self-confident
Help and support people
Celebrate people
Gracias
Sunday, 3 February 2013
Sex Is Not Kind
This story is about a lady who was in love with this guy and the guy was a player. He always claimed to love her, but was always cheating on her and she was aware of it. Whenever her friends told her of him cheating on her, she always defended him. She said proudly that even if she got pregnant, that the guy was willing to marry her. She finally got pregnant and the guy gave reasons why she should not keep it and he was not ready to get married. He said he was still in school and could not bear the responsibility of fathering a child. Finally, she aborted the child.
Points:
1) She was in love with the guy, but he was a player.
2) She knew he was a player, but she always defended him
3) She was proud to get pregnant for the guy, but the guy was not responsible
4) He gave reasons for not fathering a child
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you willing to Love and be Loved by the right and responsible person?
Lessons: guys and ladies can do or say things to get what they want. You will have to decide for yourself what you really want. Please if you get pregnant when you are not ready, it doesn't mean you have to abort it, or get married. Don't be rushed into something that you might likely regret for the rest of your life.
Love is kind. Therefore, a person that is kind will not want anything wrong or bad to happen to his or her partner.
Sex is good in marriage with your spouse only, outside of this, sex has destroyed homes, families, friends, communities, etc. It can bring about unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, Hiv/Aids,etc.
With God's Grace, Mercy And Precaution, You Can Abstain.
Remember:
Love is Kind, not sex
Abstinence is better
Condoms break, even the expensive ones
Even the "Pros" get pregnant or get ladies pregnant
Contraceptives used after a stipulated time cannot work and sometimes might be fake
Yes You Can:
Abstain
Love and Be Loved
Kind
Gracias
Points:
1) She was in love with the guy, but he was a player.
2) She knew he was a player, but she always defended him
3) She was proud to get pregnant for the guy, but the guy was not responsible
4) He gave reasons for not fathering a child
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you willing to Love and be Loved by the right and responsible person?
Lessons: guys and ladies can do or say things to get what they want. You will have to decide for yourself what you really want. Please if you get pregnant when you are not ready, it doesn't mean you have to abort it, or get married. Don't be rushed into something that you might likely regret for the rest of your life.
Love is kind. Therefore, a person that is kind will not want anything wrong or bad to happen to his or her partner.
Sex is good in marriage with your spouse only, outside of this, sex has destroyed homes, families, friends, communities, etc. It can bring about unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, Hiv/Aids,etc.
With God's Grace, Mercy And Precaution, You Can Abstain.
Remember:
Love is Kind, not sex
Abstinence is better
Condoms break, even the expensive ones
Even the "Pros" get pregnant or get ladies pregnant
Contraceptives used after a stipulated time cannot work and sometimes might be fake
Yes You Can:
Abstain
Love and Be Loved
Kind
Gracias
Saturday, 2 February 2013
Sex Is Not Patient
"I need to have sex with you, that way I can express my love to you". This was the statement by a guy to his girlfriend and she always said, "if you love me, you will wait for me". He replied, "I love you, but I can't keep my hands off you". He said that they were going to be married soon, so she should loosen up.
Points:
1) The guy wanted to have sex with her as a means of expressing his love to her
2) She said that if he loved her, he would wait for her.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Is sex worth waiting for till marriage?
Am I ready for the consequences of having sex outside of marriage?
Lessons: Guys tell ladies to have sex with them as a means of expressing their love to them. A lady is more emotional, so when she indulges in sex, she gets attached to the guy, but it is not really so for the man.
Sex is for your spouse only. Some guys even use the idea of engaging a lady as a means of having sex with her. While some ladies trap men with pregnancies.
Therefore, please be patient. Love Is Patient. When you love someone, you will wait and handle with care.
It is easy with God's Grace, Mercy and Precaution.
Yes You Can:
Be patient till you are married before engaging in sex.
Sex is just for your spouse!
2alkaboutit's Parents Forum Coming Soon :It aims to bridge the gap communication between parents and their children.
Gracias
Points:
1) The guy wanted to have sex with her as a means of expressing his love to her
2) She said that if he loved her, he would wait for her.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Is sex worth waiting for till marriage?
Am I ready for the consequences of having sex outside of marriage?
Lessons: Guys tell ladies to have sex with them as a means of expressing their love to them. A lady is more emotional, so when she indulges in sex, she gets attached to the guy, but it is not really so for the man.
Sex is for your spouse only. Some guys even use the idea of engaging a lady as a means of having sex with her. While some ladies trap men with pregnancies.
Therefore, please be patient. Love Is Patient. When you love someone, you will wait and handle with care.
It is easy with God's Grace, Mercy and Precaution.
Yes You Can:
Be patient till you are married before engaging in sex.
Sex is just for your spouse!
2alkaboutit's Parents Forum Coming Soon :It aims to bridge the gap communication between parents and their children.
Gracias
Friday, 1 February 2013
Is Sex Truely Love?
I know of a lady who ran away from every guy that wanted to sleep with her.She always said that, that kind of guy does not respect her and he must be selfish, even though the guy might have claimed that he loved her.For example,any guy she meets and he starts behaving funny like ,inviting her to his house, trying to touch her unnecessarily and asking her for sex.
Points:
1) She ran away from every guy that wanted to have sex with her
2) It did not matter if the guy claimed that he loved her
Questions To Ask Yourself?
Is sex truely Love?
Can you do without having sex, except when you are married to your spouse?
Indulging in sex outside marriage, have you gained or lost more?
Can sex complete your needs?
Lessons: I know that Sex is something that everyone is interested in.It should be done when married and with your spouse only.Having sex outside of this has broken families, friends, communities, etc. Not everyone is doing it.It can be hard, but with God's Grace, Mercy and Precaution, it can be easy to abstain.
Yes You Can:
Abstain from having sex till you are married
Do without cheating on your spouse
Love 100%
Quotes
LOVE
Is Patient and Kind
Is Not jealous or boastful or proud or rude
It does not demand its own way
Not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged
It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out
Never gives up
Never loses faith
Is always hopeful
Endures through every circumstance
Three things will last forever, Faith,Hope and Love- and the greatest of these is Love
2alkaboutit for Parents is coming up this month.More information will be passed across tomorrow.
Gracias
Points:
1) She ran away from every guy that wanted to have sex with her
2) It did not matter if the guy claimed that he loved her
Questions To Ask Yourself?
Is sex truely Love?
Can you do without having sex, except when you are married to your spouse?
Indulging in sex outside marriage, have you gained or lost more?
Can sex complete your needs?
Lessons: I know that Sex is something that everyone is interested in.It should be done when married and with your spouse only.Having sex outside of this has broken families, friends, communities, etc. Not everyone is doing it.It can be hard, but with God's Grace, Mercy and Precaution, it can be easy to abstain.
Yes You Can:
Abstain from having sex till you are married
Do without cheating on your spouse
Love 100%
Quotes
LOVE
Is Patient and Kind
Is Not jealous or boastful or proud or rude
It does not demand its own way
Not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged
It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out
Never gives up
Never loses faith
Is always hopeful
Endures through every circumstance
Three things will last forever, Faith,Hope and Love- and the greatest of these is Love
2alkaboutit for Parents is coming up this month.More information will be passed across tomorrow.
Gracias
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