Career Definition

 Did you know that many times, with just a few minor adjustments, you can achieve major changes in your career?

Yes! Many people 'endure' their career experience rather than 'enjoy' it simply because they are not recording any progress.

Over the next few weeks, as I prepare for CAREERSHIFT Lagos & ABUJA, I'll be sharing a few tips that can help you. get the 'wheels of progress' turning again in your career.

Today, I'll like to share on 'Career Definition'

Progress is slow when one's destination is not clear. The moment you know where you are going, its easier to spot opportunities to leverage for progress.

My question to you is this, 'What is your 'end-in-mind' where your career is concerned?'

As a career coach, I have personally realized that those times when I was clear about my career objectives, I seemed to be able to then easily identify my opportunities.

Now, let me say this, there will be times you feel 'confused' about what you want. Don't fret (its a waste of time). What you need is valuable information that can quench your dissatisfaction. Conduct 'informational interviews'. Search and then Research.

But Jimi, I am always too busy, I don't have time for this... If you are too busy, then you are too busy! Something has to give for you to get what you truly want. Make out some time at work, sleep less, don't attend 1 wedding this month (I hope you get my drift).

Clarity enhances progress. Relevant Information will help you in this regard.

CAREERSHIFT will be one information sharing platform that will enhance your clarity.

4 Speakers, 5 Hours.. a lifetime of value.

The fee is N10,000 and it holds on the 27th of July from 12noon @ LCCI, Ikeja. Loads of resources come with the package. For those who want to change jobs, Officer, mid level & Management recruitments will also be anchored by Adexen Consulting.

 Call 07043333041 now to reserve a seat and get payment information.

Jimi Tewe
Career Success Catalyst

Dealing With Rape

Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse, which is initiated by one or more persons against another person without that person’s consent. Rape is a terrible act. It is punishable under law.

No one deserves to be raped. Last weekend, I was invited to speak on virginity and rape awareness at a programme tagged ‘’ Kiss and Tell”. It was very insightful, and I strongly encourage more events like this.

At the beginning of this week, a friend told me about a girl that was raped recently and didn’t know what to do. I decided to write an article on how to deal with rape. Below are a few tips on how to deal with rape.

-         Tell a responsible person that you trust about what happened

-         Visit a medical practitioner immediately, so you can be examined, especially if you want to the attacker prosecuted

-         Speak to and visit a professional counselor

-         Don’t bottle the emotions; cry, shout, scream especially when you feel the rush of emotions

-         Don’t blame yourself, no one ever deserves to be raped

-         Seek regular professional help to boost your self-esteem

-         Attend seminars and read books that will build your character in forgiveness, trust and love.

-         During the times you feel down, open up to God and someone that you trust.

My Quotes:

·        No one deserves to be raped

·        Real men/women don’t rape

·        Stop the stigma against raped victims

Gracias

Invest In The Future

It is the desire of every teenager to be treated with respect as a young adult, but due to distractions in the society, teenagers might not behave as they should.Therefore, they might be seen as being irresponsible.

This notion can lead to more havoc that will create a long line of neglection by adults forcing the teenager to making wrong decisions.

As the young people's person, I have decided to profer solutions to the challenges that they face.

I will tackle issues on regularly:
- Self-discovery

- Communication with parents and friends

- Career choice

- Choice of school

- Sex &

- Social networking

I was @ one of the leading secondary schools in Nigeria, to encourage the students and a young lady walked up to me.She said, she was in a fix on deciding whether to start A levels before graduating from secondary school.She felt that she will be behind her mates if she travels after graduating from school,because she will have to do Alevels for 2years in the Uk, before entering the university.Therefore, she thinks her mate will be ahead of her by 2years. I advised her appropriately and she was happy.
 
This is just an example of what young people face and they don't really discuss it with their parents, teachers and guardians, due to so many factors.

I implore you to encourage every teenager to add me on any of these social networks( Facebook,twitter,bbm).I would be very pleased to attend to their issues.

The child you know today, might be the president tomorrow.Therefore, invest in a child.

Facebook: Oluwatosin Fatungase
Twitter: @Oluwatosinfatun
BB Pin: 290bdc5e
Email: Tosinfatung@gmail.com

I Believe In The Future Leaders.

Gracias

Reaching Out

Everyday, I think on how to make the lives of people better.I know I cannot influence everyone, neither can I be everywhere, but I know that by sharing this message with you,lives will be touched positively.

A young lady told me how she has been battling with masturbation since childhood.She said that, a female friend of hers used to teach her when they were young.

She knows that masturbation is wrong, but she can't just stop.She is trying to move onto the next level of her, but she is facing challenges and she thinks that God is using the challenges to punish her for masturbating.

She could not talk to her mum, because her mum is always shouting and she is not close to her elder sister.

Our parents trained us the best way they could at that time, but to some of us, the training was too harsh.We could not interact freely with our parents.We looked for refuge outside, either in books, music, movies, alcohol, cigarettes, cocaine, clubbing, sex, etc. At the end of the day, we could not wait to leave the house.

This has led some of us into making wrong decisions that we regret today.You need to be careful not to make the same mistake your parents made.

Therefore:
- Discover your self

- Stand for what is right

- Don't be pressurized into making any decision especially in marriage (think carefully)

- Make up your mind to learn on how to be a good parent ( read books,attend seminars on parenting, etc)

- Speak positive words to your children

- Let them know that you :

 A) Love them

 B) Believe in them

 C) Appreciate them

 D) See the best in them

- Create time to spend with your children

- Hug them regularly

- Be proud of them

- Engage them in positive activities such
as reading books, playing games like monopoly,scrabble, etc

Remember that your children will live with you for at least 16years (that is if they don't enter school before the age of 16). Use this period wisely,so you won't regret it.

This should be not to your children alone but also for other younger ones.

Gracias

Sex Education

Good Day,

I had a wonderful time speaking to a group comprising Parents and children @ Foursquare Gospel Church,Tafawa Balewa Crescent, Surulere,on the 21st of may,2013.

I thought of sharing the following key points from the discussion with you.


A. Sex is Universal

B. Sex is a marketing tool for products, songs,fashion etc

C. Every child is different & parents need to know and understand their child's pin code(s)

D. In the beginning of a project or business, we carry out a SWOT analysis.We do research to ensure that the project or business does not fail.We need to do regular SWOT analysis for children.

E. Parents should:
- create an environment that allow children to express themselves.
- be truthful to their children
- cultivate a cordial relationship with their children. Cordial relationship takes effort and persistence as it grows over time.
-show and express unconditional love to their children.
- instill confidence in their children
- speak positively, words of love and encouragement to children
- train children up in the way of the Lord(This includes sex)
- educate and inform children about sex and its consequences
- teach children to protect themselves from rape or any other form of abuse.
- teach children not to allow anyone touch or fondle with their bodies, especially their sensitive parts.
- keep their disagreement with their spouse from children. It has a negative psychological effect.
- rebuke when necessary. (N.B. Shouting and beating does not really make a child heed to correction, especially teenagers)

The aim of every parent should be to love, not scare the child. Therefore, parents should rebuke their children with love.

In conclusion, times have changed, if we don't teach the younger generation, the world will teach them and this may lead to grievous consequences.

God's grace and strength is available for us. Let's tap into it now.

I Believe In You.

I Believe In The Future Leaders.

I will put a summary of parent's comments at the program tomorrow on this blog.

Please share this message with your friends and families.

Pharm.Oluwatosin Fatungase
@oluwatosinfatun

Ladies, don't get caught.

Rape is a very terrible act. The perpetrators of this evil act could be male or female. The same goes for the victims. Due to the stigma attached to rape, the victims of this act usually keep the incident to themselves. This is especially true in African countries where deeply held cultural beliefs deny the victim the required sympathy and support.

'Since the advent of social media, there has been a rise in the number of reported cases of rape. This is a positive step in the right direction.' Another interesting development is the invention of the 'rape-prevention underwear' by a group of Indian students. You can read more about it here:
http://t.co/E30tLKekaz.

It will definitely take some time before the anti-rape underwear gets to Africa, but while we are waiting for it, I have compiled some helpful tips that can keep you from being raped. I am sure you will find them very useful.

1.) As a lady, avoid going alone to a male person's house, especially if it is someone you don't really know.

2.) Avoid taking any drink or food at a guy's house. You can buy your own drink and keep it in your bag.

3.) As a young lady, carry pepper spray,nail cutter, pens (I know this is not popular in Africa). Keep the items within easy reach, especially if you are going to be alone in a guy's house. They will come handy, if there is a foul play.

4.) Learn some self-defense skills

5.) Avoid late night outings, dark corners and roads.

6.) Avoid entering vehicles with strange faces.

7.) Always inform a responsible friend or adult about your whereabouts.

8.) The rapists can be familiar people.Be ready always.

9.) Do not dress provocatively.

10.) Do not have the false belief that you cannot be raped. Therefore, protect yourself.

My Quotes:
There is no good reason for rape to occur

The rapist and victim can either be male or female

The victim of rape can be destroyed forever.

The victim or rapist can be anyone.

Stop the stigma against rape victims.

Rapists should be punished according to the laws of the land.

The victims should seek help from a professional cousellor.

Gracias

Written By: Pharm. Oluwatosin Fatungase www.2alkaboutit.blogspot.comTosinfatung08@yahoo.com
@oluwatosinfatun

She speaks and motivates future leaders. Also, she consults for parents, teachers and guardians on how to love,train, discipline and communicate effectively with children and teenagers.

Presently, she speaks to over a thousand teenagers monthly at different secondary schools in Lagos, Nigeria.

Rape Expos'e 3

This is the story of a family that was robbed and their daughters raped.

It was a 5-man gang that besieged this family that Saturday night. After breaking into the jewellery vault and carting away trinkets, the men descended on these two daughters. Both daughters were raped by these five men.

It was a terrible ordeal and due to the shame, they all pretended that the incident never occurred.

The ladies were hurt, dehumanised and they could not wash away the memory of that incident.

Consequently, they hated men and they were focused in all they set their hearts to do. They grew to be elites in the society and they became familiar with lesbians. Finally, they became lesbians.

General Points:
1). Rape is a terrible act
2). Both men and women can be perpetrators or victims of this terrible act.
3). From the above story, this family was robbed both physically and emotionally.
4). Their self-worth and confidence can only be restored by God's grace and good professional counsel.


Please Note: I know quite a number of people have been raped and don't know what to do next. This can lead to one indulging in wrong practices or associations.

A victim of rape deserves love, care, kindness, compassion, etc. Personally, I believe that every mess can become a positive message to people. To everyone reaching out for love in order to feel complete, God loves you. Follow his lead and he will settle everything that concerns you.

Please stop the stigma against rape victims. Please support, by sharing this message to all your friends,loved ones and every person you know.

@oluwatosinfatun

Gracias