Women Be Wise...

I live in a third world country, where women are seen as below men. Let me give you an example, it is not bad if the man cheats, people will say, especially to the woman, that he is a man and she should bear with him. 

This means that, a man can or will cheat, but the lady should understand, but if a woman cheats, she is seen as a prostitute and she will likely be kicked out of the house. Well, I know that there are some men respect the rights and appreciate women. 

Don’t let us forget, some women are the cause of their husband’s negative behaviors. They dress shabbily; push out their husbands out of the house with negative words and actions. 

Another example, a man hits a woman, and she is told to bear the pain, especially if she has children. Therefore, she uses her children or any other commitment as an excuse to stay in the abusive relationship or marriage.

Sometimes, we women don’t tell ourselves the truth. For example, a married woman is having challenges with her husband in collecting money for housekeep and she tells her married friend, who now tells her to not to agree with her husband. While, the friend giving the advice might be going through worse situation with her husband and she won’t do anything to her husband. It is very important to settle your issues in the family without involving a third party, even if you want to get counsel, get it from a responsible and older experienced individual.

Recently, a friend just told me, how he had to save his mother from his father. He said that, his father will beat his mum so much that she passed out. He could not take it anymore, when his mum was bleeding and he had to rush her to the hospital.

Well, some guys say, that woman will have done something to warrant the beating or abuse. I know that we women can be provocative, but that does not mean a man should raise his hand on a woman. 

 I cannot stand men that abuse women, when I say abuse, I mean cheat, rape, molest, downgrade, beat, etc. Men should know that no matter how much another man gets you annoyed, especially if you know that he is stronger than you, you will likely not raise your hand on him, so there is no excuse to beat a woman.

Abuse is very terrible, embarrassing and demeaning. The woman’s self esteem is likely crushed and might be destructive.  It is a continuous cycle, this affects the child negatively, then the child will be looking for love, joy, fulfillment outside the home. This is very dangerous because if in a wrong gang can mislead one to engaging in activities not befitting.

Woman, please be wise. Avoid using provocative words against men (husband, fiance, boyfriend, etc). Remember, woman if he beats and kills you mistakenly, he will continue his life and likely marry someone else.

Women should please seek professional help and counsel if you have been or are in a destructive and abusive relationship. Please don’t suffer in silence. If you die, life continues, so “YOUR LIFE IS IMPORTANT”.

Send me a mail as soon as possible and will refer you to an appropriate center for professional help.

Oluwatosin Fatungase (Pharm) 

Gracias