I was at a meeting with the executives of a popular group last year december and we discussed rape and its causes. The guys blamed the ladies for indecent dressing, but the ladies did not agree with that point.The ladies talked about guys that raped babies, children and fully dressed ladies. The meeting place was tense and a lot of anger was vented on the guys for that excuse of ladies dressing indecently.
Recently, I was discussing with some of my friends, the issue of rape came up and they just got angry.They said, "There Is No Excuse For A Man To Rape A Baby/Girl/Lady/Woman" and if they do, they have a "Psychiatric Problem".
These are the opinions of people. Please send me your own stories and opinion of a rape.You can also list out the causes of rape.
Please send me a mail: Tosinfatung@gmail.com
Please read, share and comment on our previous articles. You will find them interesting, informative and exciting.
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Gracias
Thursday, 28 February 2013
Tuesday, 26 February 2013
Bottom Power
This is the story of a man that worked in a reputable organisation, but he was a flirt.He harassed ladies that were his subordinates and he got away with it, because the ladies were scared to lose their jobs. This continued for years and he was promoted regularly. This led to him having his own team.
On his team was a pretty lady with a lovely smile.He was attracted to her and he started assigning more jobs to her, so he could interact with her more. She did her work and she acted professionally with him. His advances at her now increased and he started calling and asking her out frequently.She was calm, but scared, because she knew that he had the power to make her life miserable or sack her.
She decided to record their conversations. He tried raping her when no one was in the office, but she escaped. He now got very angry at her, he snapped at her at everything she did, he gave her tons of work to do and he queried her.
She went to his superiors and made her complaints of harassment with the recordings as evidence.They suspended him indefinitely without pay and he could not be employed in other firms.
Points:
1) He was a flirt and he got away with it
2) He harrassed a female subordinate regularly that recorded their conversations
3) He was suspended indefinitely with no pay.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you a flirt?
Can you control your emotions?
Do you think you can do something wrong and always get away with it?
Lessons: Men, its not every bottom that rolls that you look at and even if you do, please be responsible and take your eyes away.For every bad thing you are doing, there is always a day of reckoning.
The sad thing is that most times, men crash when they are doing excellently in their careers, thereby destroying all they have worked for.
You can be successful, but it takes "Character" to keep you there.
Therefore, work on your character, get help, read books and attend seminars that would help you become a better person.
Yes You Can:
Avoid bottom power
Work on your character
Become a better you
Gracias
On his team was a pretty lady with a lovely smile.He was attracted to her and he started assigning more jobs to her, so he could interact with her more. She did her work and she acted professionally with him. His advances at her now increased and he started calling and asking her out frequently.She was calm, but scared, because she knew that he had the power to make her life miserable or sack her.
She decided to record their conversations. He tried raping her when no one was in the office, but she escaped. He now got very angry at her, he snapped at her at everything she did, he gave her tons of work to do and he queried her.
She went to his superiors and made her complaints of harassment with the recordings as evidence.They suspended him indefinitely without pay and he could not be employed in other firms.
Points:
1) He was a flirt and he got away with it
2) He harrassed a female subordinate regularly that recorded their conversations
3) He was suspended indefinitely with no pay.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you a flirt?
Can you control your emotions?
Do you think you can do something wrong and always get away with it?
Lessons: Men, its not every bottom that rolls that you look at and even if you do, please be responsible and take your eyes away.For every bad thing you are doing, there is always a day of reckoning.
The sad thing is that most times, men crash when they are doing excellently in their careers, thereby destroying all they have worked for.
You can be successful, but it takes "Character" to keep you there.
Therefore, work on your character, get help, read books and attend seminars that would help you become a better person.
Yes You Can:
Avoid bottom power
Work on your character
Become a better you
Gracias
Monday, 25 February 2013
Embracing Love
This is the story of a lady who had a terrible past during her time in the university. She was involved in several destructive sexual relationships, club parties and drinking. During her final year, she became born-again and she turned a new leaf.
She now started considering marriage, she decided to go for a past boyfriend who was not responsible. She felt that was what she deserved.They fought regularly because their belief and moral systems were no longer the same, but she was very scared to break the relationship.
Finally, she knew that she would either be single, or get married to someone she would be happy with.She summed up courage, worked on her self-esteem and broke up with the guy.
She decided to stay single, but a good guy noticed her and started talking to her. She was not interested, because she felt he was too perfect for her.She finally accepted his friendship and they got married.
Points:
1) She had a terrible past
2) She became born-again and turned a new leaf
3) Her past limited her in making a right choice for a relationship
4) She later decided to work on her self-esteem and she married a good man
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you being limited by your past to embrace Love?
Are you working on your Self-esteem?
Are you scared to embrace true Love?
Lessons: It is sometimes hard to embrace true love, especially when you are from a dysfunctional home, abused and derailed relationship.
You deserve to Love and be Loved, no matter your past challenges.When you are about to make a choice, please choose someone that loves, respects and adores you.
Yes You Can:
Love
Be Loved
Embrace Love
Coming Soon:
Expos`e on rape,
Bottom power,
Oral sex, sweet or bitter?
And Many More.
Gracias.
She now started considering marriage, she decided to go for a past boyfriend who was not responsible. She felt that was what she deserved.They fought regularly because their belief and moral systems were no longer the same, but she was very scared to break the relationship.
Finally, she knew that she would either be single, or get married to someone she would be happy with.She summed up courage, worked on her self-esteem and broke up with the guy.
She decided to stay single, but a good guy noticed her and started talking to her. She was not interested, because she felt he was too perfect for her.She finally accepted his friendship and they got married.
Points:
1) She had a terrible past
2) She became born-again and turned a new leaf
3) Her past limited her in making a right choice for a relationship
4) She later decided to work on her self-esteem and she married a good man
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you being limited by your past to embrace Love?
Are you working on your Self-esteem?
Are you scared to embrace true Love?
Lessons: It is sometimes hard to embrace true love, especially when you are from a dysfunctional home, abused and derailed relationship.
You deserve to Love and be Loved, no matter your past challenges.When you are about to make a choice, please choose someone that loves, respects and adores you.
Yes You Can:
Love
Be Loved
Embrace Love
Coming Soon:
Expos`e on rape,
Bottom power,
Oral sex, sweet or bitter?
And Many More.
Gracias.
Sunday, 24 February 2013
Why Go For Less?
This is the story of a guy who was in a relationship with a lady who was cheating on him. He actually knew she was cheating, but he was willing to stay in the relationship. He said, he loves her. People told him that he should end it, but he always defended her, saying that she supported his dreams and she cared for him when he was ill.He believed that she would change.
This is the story of a lady in a relationship with a guy that beats her, even in public. She always goes back to apologise to the guy, because she claims that they are in Love.
Points:
They both have an disillusion of what love is.
Questions:
What kind of relationship are you in?
Are you truely in love?
Are you blinded by lust?
Are you limited by your past experiences?
Are you hoping to change the character of your partner?
What are you scared of in a relationship?
Lessons: It is good to be in love, but its very wrong for you to be in a deceitful, abusive and destructive relationship. You cannot really change a person.The end result might not be pleasant.
It is not right for you to be in a relationship where you are been abused, bruised, embarrased, belittled, etc.
Yes, you deserve better. You deserve to be loved, cherished and treated appropriately. No one should make you feel worthless, because you are truely precious.
There is no other person that can be like you in everything.You are Unique, that's how God created you. You are just perfect in shape and size.
All you need, is to work and increase your knowledge and capacity.Strive to be a person of impact. This is what you will attract to yourself and you will be glad that you did.
To know what love is, please read our previous articles.
Yes You Can:
Love
Be Loved
Be Happy
Be a person of Impact
Gracias
This is the story of a lady in a relationship with a guy that beats her, even in public. She always goes back to apologise to the guy, because she claims that they are in Love.
Points:
They both have an disillusion of what love is.
Questions:
What kind of relationship are you in?
Are you truely in love?
Are you blinded by lust?
Are you limited by your past experiences?
Are you hoping to change the character of your partner?
What are you scared of in a relationship?
Lessons: It is good to be in love, but its very wrong for you to be in a deceitful, abusive and destructive relationship. You cannot really change a person.The end result might not be pleasant.
It is not right for you to be in a relationship where you are been abused, bruised, embarrased, belittled, etc.
Yes, you deserve better. You deserve to be loved, cherished and treated appropriately. No one should make you feel worthless, because you are truely precious.
There is no other person that can be like you in everything.You are Unique, that's how God created you. You are just perfect in shape and size.
All you need, is to work and increase your knowledge and capacity.Strive to be a person of impact. This is what you will attract to yourself and you will be glad that you did.
To know what love is, please read our previous articles.
Yes You Can:
Love
Be Loved
Be Happy
Be a person of Impact
Gracias
Friday, 22 February 2013
Parents And Parents To Be...
You Need To Read This Now...
I speak to @ least 200 secondary school students almost every week.One thing that fascinates me about these children is that they give the sarcastic and unconcerned attitude on the first meeting, but after speaking to them, they open up to me immediately.
Therefore, based on my experience, I am giving you this advice.
Please parents, love your children unconditionally, speak positive words to them "Everyday". Yes, Everyday and discipline them when necessary.
I need you to please create time for your children.Let them know that they can talk and look up to you.
Please show and teach your children parts of their bodies, especially their genitals. Tell them not to allow anyone to touch it and if anyone tries to do so or does so against their will they should come home to tell you. But it takes constant show of love and care before your child opens up to you. You can't be emotionally distant from your child and expect them to talk to you about such things.
Protect these children, by not leaving them alone or in unsafe hands, even the trusted person may be the culprit and bear in mind that a man may molest a boy and a woman may molest a girl. A large number of rape cases start from the home and the rapist may be of any age they don't have to be adults. It may be the father,brother,sister,other family members, friends, neigbours etc.
Sometimes it starts innocently. It may just have been that the innocent child and the rapist were playing and one thing just led to another, the rapist may not even have intended to do so and the rape might continue for years.
I know its not as easy as it sounds, but you need to put in a lot of effort.God expects that much from you.
I am writing and pleading to you based on my experiences with children weekly. They are very vulnerable and looking at the root of their problems, its majorly from the home, from under your roof.
These children just want love, care, attention etc.If you don't give it to them, others will do it for you, whether positively or negatively.
Please comment and share.
2alkaboutit Parent's Forum Coming Up Soon.
For More Information, Log On Everyday To:
www.2alkaboutit.blogspot.com
Pharmacist Tosin Fatungase
290bdc5e
@oluwatosinfatun
Gracias
I speak to @ least 200 secondary school students almost every week.One thing that fascinates me about these children is that they give the sarcastic and unconcerned attitude on the first meeting, but after speaking to them, they open up to me immediately.
Therefore, based on my experience, I am giving you this advice.
Please parents, love your children unconditionally, speak positive words to them "Everyday". Yes, Everyday and discipline them when necessary.
I need you to please create time for your children.Let them know that they can talk and look up to you.
Please show and teach your children parts of their bodies, especially their genitals. Tell them not to allow anyone to touch it and if anyone tries to do so or does so against their will they should come home to tell you. But it takes constant show of love and care before your child opens up to you. You can't be emotionally distant from your child and expect them to talk to you about such things.
Protect these children, by not leaving them alone or in unsafe hands, even the trusted person may be the culprit and bear in mind that a man may molest a boy and a woman may molest a girl. A large number of rape cases start from the home and the rapist may be of any age they don't have to be adults. It may be the father,brother,sister,other family members, friends, neigbours etc.
Sometimes it starts innocently. It may just have been that the innocent child and the rapist were playing and one thing just led to another, the rapist may not even have intended to do so and the rape might continue for years.
I know its not as easy as it sounds, but you need to put in a lot of effort.God expects that much from you.
I am writing and pleading to you based on my experiences with children weekly. They are very vulnerable and looking at the root of their problems, its majorly from the home, from under your roof.
These children just want love, care, attention etc.If you don't give it to them, others will do it for you, whether positively or negatively.
Please comment and share.
2alkaboutit Parent's Forum Coming Up Soon.
For More Information, Log On Everyday To:
www.2alkaboutit.blogspot.com
Pharmacist Tosin Fatungase
290bdc5e
@oluwatosinfatun
Gracias
Wednesday, 20 February 2013
Love Is An Action Word
I have heard of ladies beaten by their boyfriends and these ladies go back to apologise.They give excuses for their boyfriends and say the beating is out of love.
I have also heard of guys taking ladies for granted.They cheat openly and they are proud of it.
I have heard of ladies who end their relationship to go out with elderly wealthy men.
Points:
The common thing with the three stories is that actions were taken
Questions To Ask Yourself:
What do you call Love?
Are you showing Love?
Are you been Loved?
Lessons:Love is an action word.Some of us have the wrong meaning of love, this might be due to personal experiences from home, family, friends, environment, etc.
To Love and be loved truthfully is possible.Do not go below standards, no matter your past.Seek and be the best.The choice is yours.You need to seek help from any addiction, wrong emotions, etc.
You can read our previous articles on what love is.
Yes You Can:
Love
Be Loved
Be The Best
Seek The Best
Gracias
I have also heard of guys taking ladies for granted.They cheat openly and they are proud of it.
I have heard of ladies who end their relationship to go out with elderly wealthy men.
Points:
The common thing with the three stories is that actions were taken
Questions To Ask Yourself:
What do you call Love?
Are you showing Love?
Are you been Loved?
Lessons:Love is an action word.Some of us have the wrong meaning of love, this might be due to personal experiences from home, family, friends, environment, etc.
To Love and be loved truthfully is possible.Do not go below standards, no matter your past.Seek and be the best.The choice is yours.You need to seek help from any addiction, wrong emotions, etc.
You can read our previous articles on what love is.
Yes You Can:
Love
Be Loved
Be The Best
Seek The Best
Gracias
Big Tummy Is Not A Sign Of Wealth
It is common to see women and especially men with big tummy these days. This is sometimes seen as a sign of wealth and success, but caution should be taken as it is rather a sign poor health. Big tummy can be:
Hereditary
Due to alcohol Intake
Due to eating food late at night
Due to eating heavy foods especially at night
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you have a big tummy?
Do you eat heavy meals?
Do you eat heavy meals at night?
Lessons: Try to reduce and preferably stop alcohol intake. Don't eat too much food at once especially late at night. A light meal is preferable at night, while a heavy meal could be taken during the day so that the energy can be used up and excess fat is not retained in the body.
Simply put, eat well and live well because health is wealth and not a big tummy! Please Share.
Gracias
Written By: Pharmacists Tosin Fatungase And Ofure Odigwe
Follow: @oluwatosinfatun
Hereditary
Due to alcohol Intake
Due to eating food late at night
Due to eating heavy foods especially at night
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you have a big tummy?
Do you eat heavy meals?
Do you eat heavy meals at night?
Lessons: Try to reduce and preferably stop alcohol intake. Don't eat too much food at once especially late at night. A light meal is preferable at night, while a heavy meal could be taken during the day so that the energy can be used up and excess fat is not retained in the body.
Simply put, eat well and live well because health is wealth and not a big tummy! Please Share.
Gracias
Written By: Pharmacists Tosin Fatungase And Ofure Odigwe
Follow: @oluwatosinfatun
Sunday, 17 February 2013
Love Is
Love is for matured people that are responsible for their actions.It should be taken very seriously.
Love can bring familes together, settle dispute among nations and can strengthen countries.
Love Is The Greatest.
Gracias
Love can bring familes together, settle dispute among nations and can strengthen countries.
Love Is The Greatest.
Gracias
Saturday, 16 February 2013
What Love Is
This month, I have written on the topic, Love and its charcteristics, using different stories of people.Its been a beautiful month, everyone loves Love.Please never forget what love is.Love Is Always Positive And Never Negative.This is just to remind us what love is.
Points:
LOVE
Is Patient and Kind
Is Not jealous or boastful or proud or rude
It does not demand its own way
Not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged
It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out
Never gives up
Never loses faith
Is always hopeful
Endures through every circumstance
Three things will last forever, Faith,Hope and Love- and the greatest of these is Love
Gracias
Friday, 15 February 2013
Loves Endures
This is the story of a young wealthy man going through a life-threatening disease and the doctors told him that he had few months to live.This man decided to care and show love to other persons ill at the hospital ward.He was strong for himself and people around him.He lived for five more years, to the suprise of his doctors.
Points:
1) The young wealthy man had a life-threatening disease with few months to live
2) He decided to care and show love to other people ill around him
3) He was strong for himself and other people
4) He lived for five more years , to the suprise of his doctors
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you going through any challenge?
Do you know anyone going through any challenge?
Are you getting or feeling tired about the situation?
Lessons: Love endures through every circumstance.It can be hard sometimes, but its your choice to endure and be helpful to other people going through the same or other situations.Be strong, be positive and speak positively.Everything is going to be fine.
Yes You Can:
Love
Endure
Be Strong
Be Positive
Speak positively
Help others &
Care for others
Gracias
Points:
1) The young wealthy man had a life-threatening disease with few months to live
2) He decided to care and show love to other people ill around him
3) He was strong for himself and other people
4) He lived for five more years , to the suprise of his doctors
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you going through any challenge?
Do you know anyone going through any challenge?
Are you getting or feeling tired about the situation?
Lessons: Love endures through every circumstance.It can be hard sometimes, but its your choice to endure and be helpful to other people going through the same or other situations.Be strong, be positive and speak positively.Everything is going to be fine.
Yes You Can:
Love
Endure
Be Strong
Be Positive
Speak positively
Help others &
Care for others
Gracias
Thursday, 14 February 2013
A Love Poem
You are my blessing
You will ever remain the reason
For my every season
I pray to always be pleasing
And never abusing
to you my blessing
You are my treasure
To my life you've brought pleasure
And taken away every pressure
Now life has become a leisure
So much that I can't measure
your worth oh my treasure!
You are my love song
One I'll always have on my tongue
Now and all life long
For times when I'm strong
And times when I'm wrong
cos it's you I belong
written by: dr moyo ekundayo
to his love:dr blessing agbaje
Tuesday, 12 February 2013
Love Can Be Hard
Love Can Be Hard
I remember I was hurt by someone dear to me, the person hurt me so much that I was living but frustrated.I built a defence wall around me that no one could penetrate.It just made me cranky,proud and obnoxious.I had to learn how to forgive,but this happened when I became born-again, but to forget was a no go area for me.I would try to forget and I would remember all the evil acts the person had committed.I had to really ask myself if I had forgiven and forgotten.
Truthfully, I have forgiven, but I have not fogotten fully.I am sincerely asking God to help me.
Points:
1) I was hurt by someone dear to me
2) I was Living but frustrated
3) I built a defence wall around me
4) I learnt how to forgive, but was still hard to forget
5) I am working hard on forgetting the hurt, by God's grace
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you forgive people?
Do you forget the wrong doings of others?
Are you working to get better?
Lessons: Love does not keep records of wrong.Yes, it can be very hard, but this can limit our performance, because we might form a defence mechanism.
We need to know that God has forgiven and forgotten our evil acts, and we also are not perfect beings.
Yes You Can:
Forgive
Forget
Love
Gracias
I remember I was hurt by someone dear to me, the person hurt me so much that I was living but frustrated.I built a defence wall around me that no one could penetrate.It just made me cranky,proud and obnoxious.I had to learn how to forgive,but this happened when I became born-again, but to forget was a no go area for me.I would try to forget and I would remember all the evil acts the person had committed.I had to really ask myself if I had forgiven and forgotten.
Truthfully, I have forgiven, but I have not fogotten fully.I am sincerely asking God to help me.
Points:
1) I was hurt by someone dear to me
2) I was Living but frustrated
3) I built a defence wall around me
4) I learnt how to forgive, but was still hard to forget
5) I am working hard on forgetting the hurt, by God's grace
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you forgive people?
Do you forget the wrong doings of others?
Are you working to get better?
Lessons: Love does not keep records of wrong.Yes, it can be very hard, but this can limit our performance, because we might form a defence mechanism.
We need to know that God has forgiven and forgotten our evil acts, and we also are not perfect beings.
Yes You Can:
Forgive
Forget
Love
Gracias
Monday, 11 February 2013
Love And Injustice
This happened some weeks ago, when a young female student was gang raped and injured severly in her country.She tried to resist them, but they overpowered her. She also inflicted some injuries on them.She was thrown out of the vehicle in a terrible state and was rushed to the hospital where she died after a few days, due to severe injuries.
This incident caused an uproar in the country especially by students.They wanted justice to the men that committed the heinous act.They wanted more severe laws protecting their women against abuse and rape.This caught the attention of the whole world.The suspects were arrested and their trial in court began.
Points:
1) A young female student was gang raped.
2) She was injured severly
3) She later died
4) This caused an uproar in the country
5) This caught the attention of the whole world
6) The suspects were brought into custody and they were tried
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you unjust?
Do you indulge in evil practices?
Do you cover up evil?
Have you ever raped anyone?
Lessons: Love is beautiful.It does not rejoice about injustice, but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
Rape is a very terrible act.It affects and may destroy the life of the victim.This applies to other cases of evil acts.The truth should be said always and those found guilty of their crimes should be allowed to go through trial and be punished as required by the law.
Love is about saying the truth at all times, caring for others and being responsible for your actions.Never cover up any evil and do not carry out any evil act.
Yes You Can:
Love
Be Loved
Be Just
Be Truthful
Programs Coming Up This Week:
2alkaboutit for secondary school students
2alkaboutit Parent's Forum,
Theme: Can we talk about sex?
Date: Saturday, 16th February, 2013.
Time: 12:30pm-2:30pm prompt.
Venue: Destiny Hall, Lagos University Teaching Hospital, Idi-Araba.
Host: Pharm.Oluwatosin Fatungase
Please for more information, call: 08075304034
Gracias
This incident caused an uproar in the country especially by students.They wanted justice to the men that committed the heinous act.They wanted more severe laws protecting their women against abuse and rape.This caught the attention of the whole world.The suspects were arrested and their trial in court began.
Points:
1) A young female student was gang raped.
2) She was injured severly
3) She later died
4) This caused an uproar in the country
5) This caught the attention of the whole world
6) The suspects were brought into custody and they were tried
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you unjust?
Do you indulge in evil practices?
Do you cover up evil?
Have you ever raped anyone?
Lessons: Love is beautiful.It does not rejoice about injustice, but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
Rape is a very terrible act.It affects and may destroy the life of the victim.This applies to other cases of evil acts.The truth should be said always and those found guilty of their crimes should be allowed to go through trial and be punished as required by the law.
Love is about saying the truth at all times, caring for others and being responsible for your actions.Never cover up any evil and do not carry out any evil act.
Yes You Can:
Love
Be Loved
Be Just
Be Truthful
Programs Coming Up This Week:
2alkaboutit for secondary school students
2alkaboutit Parent's Forum,
Theme: Can we talk about sex?
Date: Saturday, 16th February, 2013.
Time: 12:30pm-2:30pm prompt.
Venue: Destiny Hall, Lagos University Teaching Hospital, Idi-Araba.
Host: Pharm.Oluwatosin Fatungase
Please for more information, call: 08075304034
Gracias
Sunday, 10 February 2013
Super Eagles Love Story
This is a love story of a football team, whom against all odds proved that Love still exists.In the beginning, they were criticized and mocked, but they had one Vision, to bring back the trophy to their beloved country, Nigeria.It was difficult for them to believe in this Vision, because there was no external motivation, but they continued to practice. They believed in themselves and they worked hard, day and night.
The first hurdle was the qualifiers match of the African Cup Of Nations, and they actually qualified.People were a little bit suprised, but still did not expect much from them.
The African Cup Of Nations Started and they did averagely well at the beginning, but there was still no encouragement and support from their people.They moved to the quarter finals, where they met a team with top football players in the world.The world thought that this was the end for the super eagles, but they proved us wrong again, they scored two goals. The story changed from this point.
People started supporting the team, blood was now supposed to be green as a sign of Loyalty to the team.They did extremely well at the semi-finals, they scored four goals.At the finals, people expressed their love in diverse ways, prayers, delegates and messages were sent to them.
Finally, on the tenth of February 2013, they showed the whole world their Love towards Nigeria by winning the trophy, despite the trials and criticisms.Nigerians were proud to be raise the trophy after nineteen years.The Super Eagles did not give up on Nigeria even when we gave up on them.Two of our team members won awards such as "The Most Valuable Player" and "The Highest Goal Scorer".The beautiful thing is that, they worked hard as a team and they were thankful to God.This is true Love.
Points:
1) They love Nigeria
2) They did not give up on Nigeria
3) They believed in themselves
4) They worked hard and they brought back the trophy
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you Love people?
Do you Love your country?
Do you believe in yourself?
Do you give up on people?
Lessons: Super eagles showed us what love is.They did not give up on us, even when we did not support and encourage them.This means that, Love Is Selfless.
Yes You Can:
Love People
Believe In People
Programs Holding This Week:
2alkaboutit For Secondary School Students
2alkaboutit Parents Forum.
Date: Saturday, 16th February, 2013
Venue: Destiny Hall, Luth Idi-Araba, Lagos.
Time: 12:30pm-2:30pm Prompt
Register Now: send your name, email address, phone number and occupation to, 08075304034
Gracias
The first hurdle was the qualifiers match of the African Cup Of Nations, and they actually qualified.People were a little bit suprised, but still did not expect much from them.
The African Cup Of Nations Started and they did averagely well at the beginning, but there was still no encouragement and support from their people.They moved to the quarter finals, where they met a team with top football players in the world.The world thought that this was the end for the super eagles, but they proved us wrong again, they scored two goals. The story changed from this point.
People started supporting the team, blood was now supposed to be green as a sign of Loyalty to the team.They did extremely well at the semi-finals, they scored four goals.At the finals, people expressed their love in diverse ways, prayers, delegates and messages were sent to them.
Finally, on the tenth of February 2013, they showed the whole world their Love towards Nigeria by winning the trophy, despite the trials and criticisms.Nigerians were proud to be raise the trophy after nineteen years.The Super Eagles did not give up on Nigeria even when we gave up on them.Two of our team members won awards such as "The Most Valuable Player" and "The Highest Goal Scorer".The beautiful thing is that, they worked hard as a team and they were thankful to God.This is true Love.
Points:
1) They love Nigeria
2) They did not give up on Nigeria
3) They believed in themselves
4) They worked hard and they brought back the trophy
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you Love people?
Do you Love your country?
Do you believe in yourself?
Do you give up on people?
Lessons: Super eagles showed us what love is.They did not give up on us, even when we did not support and encourage them.This means that, Love Is Selfless.
Yes You Can:
Love People
Believe In People
Programs Holding This Week:
2alkaboutit For Secondary School Students
2alkaboutit Parents Forum.
Date: Saturday, 16th February, 2013
Venue: Destiny Hall, Luth Idi-Araba, Lagos.
Time: 12:30pm-2:30pm Prompt
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Saturday, 9 February 2013
Are You In Love?
There was a certain girl that met this tall, dark and handsome guy.The guy dressed well and was rich, she fell in love with him at first sight.She tried giving him green lights, they met and exchanged numbers.After three days of calls and textings, they hung out together and had sex.The guy started exhibiting his true character, he disrespected her by, abusing her physically and emotionally.She thought that he was going to change, but he got worse. He embarrassed her at any opportunity, he flirted with ladies openly and he beat her regularly.She was in love and said to herself, that he loved her, hence the reason for the constant discipline.
Points:
1) She met a handsome guy who was rich
2) They had sex after three days
3) He started maltreating her
4) Was she truely in love?
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you truely in love?
Are you truely in lust?
Lessons: Love is kind, patient, not rude or boastful or proud or irritable.Love does not demand its own way. Sometimes, we are attracted to people that are detrimental to us and we think they might change.It is only if the person is willing, that is when the person can change.Having sex clouds ones judgdement most times.
A destructive relationship leaves you damaged and it takes God's Grace and rehabilitation to get back to oneself.
Please evaluate yourself now to know if you are in love or in lust? Check if your partner is in love or in lust or is just an opportunist?
Read each of the characteristics of Love, on our previous posts.
Programs. For Next Week:
2alkaboutit For Secondary Schools
Parent's Forum: This aims to bridge the communication gap between parents and children.
Theme: Can we talk about sex?
Twitter:@oluwatosinfatun
Facebook: Oluwatosin Fatungase
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Points:
1) She met a handsome guy who was rich
2) They had sex after three days
3) He started maltreating her
4) Was she truely in love?
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you truely in love?
Are you truely in lust?
Lessons: Love is kind, patient, not rude or boastful or proud or irritable.Love does not demand its own way. Sometimes, we are attracted to people that are detrimental to us and we think they might change.It is only if the person is willing, that is when the person can change.Having sex clouds ones judgdement most times.
A destructive relationship leaves you damaged and it takes God's Grace and rehabilitation to get back to oneself.
Please evaluate yourself now to know if you are in love or in lust? Check if your partner is in love or in lust or is just an opportunist?
Read each of the characteristics of Love, on our previous posts.
Programs. For Next Week:
2alkaboutit For Secondary Schools
Parent's Forum: This aims to bridge the communication gap between parents and children.
Theme: Can we talk about sex?
Twitter:@oluwatosinfatun
Facebook: Oluwatosin Fatungase
Gracias
Friday, 8 February 2013
Love Is Not Irritable
There was a lady from a disturbed family who had problems communicating with people due to her background.She was proud, impolite, arrogrant, she easily got irritated and angry.She met this guy who was cool, calm and collected.They became good friends and after sometime, they started a relationship.
Later, he could not handle her behavior and he ended the relationship.
Points:
1) She was from a disturbed home which led to her having communication problems
2) She was proud, angry, arrogant and irritable.
3) She got into a relationship with a cool guy
4) He could not handle her behavior and this led to the end of the relationship
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you get angry easily?
Do you get irritated easily?
Are you willing to work on your character flaws?
What efforts are you making towards changing for good?
Lessons: Love attracts people.Everyone wants to be around a person that is warm, caring and loving.People avoid irritable or angry people.When you are irritable, you send the wrong signals, and you might send good people away from you.
When you have a character flaw such as this, first of all, accept that you have it.You have to get books, listen to messages and attend seminars that teach on overcoming this flaw. You have to make conscious efforts by vocalizing the positive character you want.
Yes You Can:
Be Loving
Be Caring
Be Warm
Programs Coming Up Next Week:
2alkaboutit for secondary schools.
2alkaboutit Parent's Forum Is Happening Next Weekend.
Theme: Can we talk about sex?
Gracias
Later, he could not handle her behavior and he ended the relationship.
Points:
1) She was from a disturbed home which led to her having communication problems
2) She was proud, angry, arrogant and irritable.
3) She got into a relationship with a cool guy
4) He could not handle her behavior and this led to the end of the relationship
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you get angry easily?
Do you get irritated easily?
Are you willing to work on your character flaws?
What efforts are you making towards changing for good?
Lessons: Love attracts people.Everyone wants to be around a person that is warm, caring and loving.People avoid irritable or angry people.When you are irritable, you send the wrong signals, and you might send good people away from you.
When you have a character flaw such as this, first of all, accept that you have it.You have to get books, listen to messages and attend seminars that teach on overcoming this flaw. You have to make conscious efforts by vocalizing the positive character you want.
Yes You Can:
Be Loving
Be Caring
Be Warm
Programs Coming Up Next Week:
2alkaboutit for secondary schools.
2alkaboutit Parent's Forum Is Happening Next Weekend.
Theme: Can we talk about sex?
Gracias
Thursday, 7 February 2013
Love Does Not Demand Its Own Way
This is the story of a Nigerian guy who lived in London with his wife and children. He had problems with immigration, so he came back to Nigeria. He then met a lady whom he liked and they became close. He started taking her out and showering her with expensive gifts and he introduced her to his family.
He wanted more intimacy and he was not getting it. He complained that she was not having sex with him and he had invested in their relationship. She told him to be patient until they got married and he said that it was not possible. She later found out that he had a family in london.
Points:
1) He got close to a lady, but he wanted sex
2) She told him to be patient until they were married
3) She found out that he was married with children in London
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you living a life of lies?
Do you want to eat your cake and also have it?
Lessons: Love is about being open to the other person.Love compromises, you must not have your way with everything.This will save us from our broken relationships and marriages.
You need to look beyond your want and take into perspective the other person's feelings. For example, guys you don't have to force yourself on a lady to have sex with you.
Yes You Can:
Be Open
Be Truthful
Be Considerate
Programs Coming Up:
2alkaboutit Parent's Forum Is Coming Up Next Weekend. It aims to bridge the communication gap between parents and their children.
Theme: Can we talk about sex?
Please,What did your parents tell you about sex? Please send me a mail: Tosinfatung@gmail.com
He wanted more intimacy and he was not getting it. He complained that she was not having sex with him and he had invested in their relationship. She told him to be patient until they got married and he said that it was not possible. She later found out that he had a family in london.
Points:
1) He got close to a lady, but he wanted sex
2) She told him to be patient until they were married
3) She found out that he was married with children in London
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you living a life of lies?
Do you want to eat your cake and also have it?
Lessons: Love is about being open to the other person.Love compromises, you must not have your way with everything.This will save us from our broken relationships and marriages.
You need to look beyond your want and take into perspective the other person's feelings. For example, guys you don't have to force yourself on a lady to have sex with you.
Yes You Can:
Be Open
Be Truthful
Be Considerate
Programs Coming Up:
2alkaboutit Parent's Forum Is Coming Up Next Weekend. It aims to bridge the communication gap between parents and their children.
Theme: Can we talk about sex?
Please,What did your parents tell you about sex? Please send me a mail: Tosinfatung@gmail.com
Wednesday, 6 February 2013
Love Is Not Rude
This is the story of a guy who liked a lady and he tried his best to impress her. He always called her, bought her gifts and tried asking her out but she was not interested in him. She was disturbed by his nice gestures, she told him to give her space. She was in a make-up training school, but she really did not plan on having a career in it. The guy bought the best and most expensive make-up kit for the lady; she however insulted him and was bent on having nothing to do with him.
Points:
1) The guy liked the lady
2) He tried to impress the lady
3) He was interested in her but she was not interested in him
4) He gave her nice gifts
5) She insulted him
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you communicate with people politely?
Do you give people gifts?
Lessons: You have to be polite to people, at all times. Sometimes, people invade into our privacy, but there are better ways to tell them. You don't have to be rude. You should be polite to people, irrespective of their age, class, title etc.
Yes You Can:
Be polite
Appreciate people
Give to people
Please Read 2alkaboutit everyday.
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Points:
1) The guy liked the lady
2) He tried to impress the lady
3) He was interested in her but she was not interested in him
4) He gave her nice gifts
5) She insulted him
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you communicate with people politely?
Do you give people gifts?
Lessons: You have to be polite to people, at all times. Sometimes, people invade into our privacy, but there are better ways to tell them. You don't have to be rude. You should be polite to people, irrespective of their age, class, title etc.
Yes You Can:
Be polite
Appreciate people
Give to people
Please Read 2alkaboutit everyday.
Gracias
Tuesday, 5 February 2013
Love Is Not Boastful
This is the story of a guy who always believed that, he could get any girl he wanted. He used to change girls regularly, he was a ladies man. He bragged about it to his friends until, he met this lady.He was full of himself that he will get the lady.The lady was young, naive and innocent, and he fell in love with her.They started a relationship.
She learnt communicating skills, dressing tips, negotiating skills from him.She was his very own student.Things went on smoothly until she started working.She started hanging out with an older man in the office.The man pampered her with lots of expensive gifts and care.Finally, she broke up with her initial boyfriend.
He was devastated, sad and heart-broken.g
Points:
1) He was the "Professional Player"
2) He was a ladies man
3) He fell in love
4) He taught her so many things
5) She started seeing an older man, who showered her with expensive gifts and care
6) She broke up with her initial boyfriend
7) He was heart-broken
Questions:
Do you think you are untouchable?
Do you think you can do things and get away with them?
Do you think that you are indispensable?
Do you think, you are so important?
Lessons: Pride goes before a fall. Most times, we get angry because of our pride.We think we are too fine, excellent,indispensable and smart.We now talk and behave like mini "gods".
Pride has no reward, but destruction.Work on your pride.
The first thing to do, is to accept that you are proud.Ask God to help you to be humble.Read books on humility.Walk with friends that believe in humility.
Therefore, Love is not boastful or proud.It is humble, always willing to look out for the other person.Love will not talk a person down or make the person feel worthless.
Yes You Can:
Work On Your Pride
Be Humble
Look out for people
Celebrate People
Please read and comment on 2alkaboutit everyday.
2alkaboutit: Real People, Real Issues, Real Lessons
She learnt communicating skills, dressing tips, negotiating skills from him.She was his very own student.Things went on smoothly until she started working.She started hanging out with an older man in the office.The man pampered her with lots of expensive gifts and care.Finally, she broke up with her initial boyfriend.
He was devastated, sad and heart-broken.g
Points:
1) He was the "Professional Player"
2) He was a ladies man
3) He fell in love
4) He taught her so many things
5) She started seeing an older man, who showered her with expensive gifts and care
6) She broke up with her initial boyfriend
7) He was heart-broken
Questions:
Do you think you are untouchable?
Do you think you can do things and get away with them?
Do you think that you are indispensable?
Do you think, you are so important?
Lessons: Pride goes before a fall. Most times, we get angry because of our pride.We think we are too fine, excellent,indispensable and smart.We now talk and behave like mini "gods".
Pride has no reward, but destruction.Work on your pride.
The first thing to do, is to accept that you are proud.Ask God to help you to be humble.Read books on humility.Walk with friends that believe in humility.
Therefore, Love is not boastful or proud.It is humble, always willing to look out for the other person.Love will not talk a person down or make the person feel worthless.
Yes You Can:
Work On Your Pride
Be Humble
Look out for people
Celebrate People
Please read and comment on 2alkaboutit everyday.
2alkaboutit: Real People, Real Issues, Real Lessons
Monday, 4 February 2013
Love Is Not Jealous
This is the story of a guy who loved helping people.No matter the amount he had, he was always willing to give.He always gave people benefit of doubt, even if they hurt him.He always supported and celebrated his friends during their achievements.He always said, that every man has his day of shining, so he has no reason to envy any man.He was very confident that, he was going to be a great man.
Points:
1) He loved helping people
2) He was a giver
3) He gave people the benefit of doubt
4) He supported and celebrated his friends achievements.
5) He was confident, that he will be Great.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you have Self- confidence?
Do you love to help people?
Do you give people benefit of doubt?
Do you celebrate and support your friends and family?
Lessons: Love is about celebrating with a person, especially during his or her success.The self- confidence you have can help you to appreciate yourself, then other people.
I noticed that when you tell someone that he or she is looking good, they think you are lying, maybe because they are not used to compliments or they think people are not sincere or they don't believe that you can be happy for them.
We need to be happy for people on the days of their success.Do not worry, you too will get there.You might even surpass them.
Remember, the race is not to the swift, neither the battle to the strong, but its just a matter of time and chance.
Identify your purpose,develop yourself, maximise opportunities and commit your plans to God.
Yes You Can:
Be self-confident
Help and support people
Celebrate people
Gracias
Points:
1) He loved helping people
2) He was a giver
3) He gave people the benefit of doubt
4) He supported and celebrated his friends achievements.
5) He was confident, that he will be Great.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Do you have Self- confidence?
Do you love to help people?
Do you give people benefit of doubt?
Do you celebrate and support your friends and family?
Lessons: Love is about celebrating with a person, especially during his or her success.The self- confidence you have can help you to appreciate yourself, then other people.
I noticed that when you tell someone that he or she is looking good, they think you are lying, maybe because they are not used to compliments or they think people are not sincere or they don't believe that you can be happy for them.
We need to be happy for people on the days of their success.Do not worry, you too will get there.You might even surpass them.
Remember, the race is not to the swift, neither the battle to the strong, but its just a matter of time and chance.
Identify your purpose,develop yourself, maximise opportunities and commit your plans to God.
Yes You Can:
Be self-confident
Help and support people
Celebrate people
Gracias
Sunday, 3 February 2013
Sex Is Not Kind
This story is about a lady who was in love with this guy and the guy was a player. He always claimed to love her, but was always cheating on her and she was aware of it. Whenever her friends told her of him cheating on her, she always defended him. She said proudly that even if she got pregnant, that the guy was willing to marry her. She finally got pregnant and the guy gave reasons why she should not keep it and he was not ready to get married. He said he was still in school and could not bear the responsibility of fathering a child. Finally, she aborted the child.
Points:
1) She was in love with the guy, but he was a player.
2) She knew he was a player, but she always defended him
3) She was proud to get pregnant for the guy, but the guy was not responsible
4) He gave reasons for not fathering a child
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you willing to Love and be Loved by the right and responsible person?
Lessons: guys and ladies can do or say things to get what they want. You will have to decide for yourself what you really want. Please if you get pregnant when you are not ready, it doesn't mean you have to abort it, or get married. Don't be rushed into something that you might likely regret for the rest of your life.
Love is kind. Therefore, a person that is kind will not want anything wrong or bad to happen to his or her partner.
Sex is good in marriage with your spouse only, outside of this, sex has destroyed homes, families, friends, communities, etc. It can bring about unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, Hiv/Aids,etc.
With God's Grace, Mercy And Precaution, You Can Abstain.
Remember:
Love is Kind, not sex
Abstinence is better
Condoms break, even the expensive ones
Even the "Pros" get pregnant or get ladies pregnant
Contraceptives used after a stipulated time cannot work and sometimes might be fake
Yes You Can:
Abstain
Love and Be Loved
Kind
Gracias
Points:
1) She was in love with the guy, but he was a player.
2) She knew he was a player, but she always defended him
3) She was proud to get pregnant for the guy, but the guy was not responsible
4) He gave reasons for not fathering a child
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Are you willing to Love and be Loved by the right and responsible person?
Lessons: guys and ladies can do or say things to get what they want. You will have to decide for yourself what you really want. Please if you get pregnant when you are not ready, it doesn't mean you have to abort it, or get married. Don't be rushed into something that you might likely regret for the rest of your life.
Love is kind. Therefore, a person that is kind will not want anything wrong or bad to happen to his or her partner.
Sex is good in marriage with your spouse only, outside of this, sex has destroyed homes, families, friends, communities, etc. It can bring about unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, Hiv/Aids,etc.
With God's Grace, Mercy And Precaution, You Can Abstain.
Remember:
Love is Kind, not sex
Abstinence is better
Condoms break, even the expensive ones
Even the "Pros" get pregnant or get ladies pregnant
Contraceptives used after a stipulated time cannot work and sometimes might be fake
Yes You Can:
Abstain
Love and Be Loved
Kind
Gracias
Saturday, 2 February 2013
Sex Is Not Patient
"I need to have sex with you, that way I can express my love to you". This was the statement by a guy to his girlfriend and she always said, "if you love me, you will wait for me". He replied, "I love you, but I can't keep my hands off you". He said that they were going to be married soon, so she should loosen up.
Points:
1) The guy wanted to have sex with her as a means of expressing his love to her
2) She said that if he loved her, he would wait for her.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Is sex worth waiting for till marriage?
Am I ready for the consequences of having sex outside of marriage?
Lessons: Guys tell ladies to have sex with them as a means of expressing their love to them. A lady is more emotional, so when she indulges in sex, she gets attached to the guy, but it is not really so for the man.
Sex is for your spouse only. Some guys even use the idea of engaging a lady as a means of having sex with her. While some ladies trap men with pregnancies.
Therefore, please be patient. Love Is Patient. When you love someone, you will wait and handle with care.
It is easy with God's Grace, Mercy and Precaution.
Yes You Can:
Be patient till you are married before engaging in sex.
Sex is just for your spouse!
2alkaboutit's Parents Forum Coming Soon :It aims to bridge the gap communication between parents and their children.
Gracias
Points:
1) The guy wanted to have sex with her as a means of expressing his love to her
2) She said that if he loved her, he would wait for her.
Questions To Ask Yourself:
Is sex worth waiting for till marriage?
Am I ready for the consequences of having sex outside of marriage?
Lessons: Guys tell ladies to have sex with them as a means of expressing their love to them. A lady is more emotional, so when she indulges in sex, she gets attached to the guy, but it is not really so for the man.
Sex is for your spouse only. Some guys even use the idea of engaging a lady as a means of having sex with her. While some ladies trap men with pregnancies.
Therefore, please be patient. Love Is Patient. When you love someone, you will wait and handle with care.
It is easy with God's Grace, Mercy and Precaution.
Yes You Can:
Be patient till you are married before engaging in sex.
Sex is just for your spouse!
2alkaboutit's Parents Forum Coming Soon :It aims to bridge the gap communication between parents and their children.
Gracias
Friday, 1 February 2013
Is Sex Truely Love?
I know of a lady who ran away from every guy that wanted to sleep with her.She always said that, that kind of guy does not respect her and he must be selfish, even though the guy might have claimed that he loved her.For example,any guy she meets and he starts behaving funny like ,inviting her to his house, trying to touch her unnecessarily and asking her for sex.
Points:
1) She ran away from every guy that wanted to have sex with her
2) It did not matter if the guy claimed that he loved her
Questions To Ask Yourself?
Is sex truely Love?
Can you do without having sex, except when you are married to your spouse?
Indulging in sex outside marriage, have you gained or lost more?
Can sex complete your needs?
Lessons: I know that Sex is something that everyone is interested in.It should be done when married and with your spouse only.Having sex outside of this has broken families, friends, communities, etc. Not everyone is doing it.It can be hard, but with God's Grace, Mercy and Precaution, it can be easy to abstain.
Yes You Can:
Abstain from having sex till you are married
Do without cheating on your spouse
Love 100%
Quotes
LOVE
Is Patient and Kind
Is Not jealous or boastful or proud or rude
It does not demand its own way
Not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged
It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out
Never gives up
Never loses faith
Is always hopeful
Endures through every circumstance
Three things will last forever, Faith,Hope and Love- and the greatest of these is Love
2alkaboutit for Parents is coming up this month.More information will be passed across tomorrow.
Gracias
Points:
1) She ran away from every guy that wanted to have sex with her
2) It did not matter if the guy claimed that he loved her
Questions To Ask Yourself?
Is sex truely Love?
Can you do without having sex, except when you are married to your spouse?
Indulging in sex outside marriage, have you gained or lost more?
Can sex complete your needs?
Lessons: I know that Sex is something that everyone is interested in.It should be done when married and with your spouse only.Having sex outside of this has broken families, friends, communities, etc. Not everyone is doing it.It can be hard, but with God's Grace, Mercy and Precaution, it can be easy to abstain.
Yes You Can:
Abstain from having sex till you are married
Do without cheating on your spouse
Love 100%
Quotes
LOVE
Is Patient and Kind
Is Not jealous or boastful or proud or rude
It does not demand its own way
Not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged
It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out
Never gives up
Never loses faith
Is always hopeful
Endures through every circumstance
Three things will last forever, Faith,Hope and Love- and the greatest of these is Love
2alkaboutit for Parents is coming up this month.More information will be passed across tomorrow.
Gracias
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