PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE 1

                          

 As a single lady, have you ever thought about the kind of attributes you would want the wife of your future son to have? Her level of education, her poise and carriage, behavior, habits and so on. Or if it is too difficult to think that far into your future, what about your beloved brothers and male cousins. Having prepared a checklist, do you think you as a person will pass if you are very objective without giving any excuse?

The same principle is applicable to guys.

I have discovered most times that most people fail to meet the high standards they expect of others and are very quick to complain when their relationships falter for one reason or the other. Both parties are very quick to lay the blame on someone other than themselves.

I advise most singles that it is never too late to improve yourself, educationally, behaviorally and emotionally. As a lady/guy who is not involved in a relationship, now is the time to learn something you don't know before. It could be cooking, sewing, driving, computer skills, anything that will add value to the kind of life you expect to live in the future.

This is also the period when you want to dwell on all the attributes your parents, relatives, true friends and other loved ones have been complaining about. Don't always believe that the man/woman in your life must take you the way you are. Would you accept him/her if the situations were reversed?

Also it is important for individuals to learn to be confident about his/her physical attributes and believe in their individual abilities. By the time an individual is above 18 years, the probability of him/her growing significantly taller or lighter (except artificially which is dangerous) is almost impossible. By then most people are already aware of there body shape and structure. The only thing that can be addressed at this stage is the body weight (and with a lot of effort).

So if you're built like a Queen Latifah or former president Olusegun Obasanjo, you should stop dreaming of becoming an Agbani Darego or P Square. You should be confident and happy with the way The Lord has created you and move on.

On a closing note you are not likely to meet your ideal soulmate if you are always indoors, don't go to worship in church or mosques, don't attend birthdays or weddings of friends and relatives and spend all your evenings watching films, Africa Magic or Telemundo (ouch!!!) on TV. You might be lucky anyway, your friends or relatives might set you up with someone like you (doesn't always work out most times).

Please note that this articles are based on my personal beliefs and opinion.

                                                         Olayemi Oladiran