These are the stories of three different people.
There was a guy that was hardworking, handsome, focused and successful.He usually hung out, clubbed on weekends, watched football, talked about and played with money and ladies with his friends.He did this regularly as it was normal to him and his friends, he even stated the medical benefit of such things.
He always said, "Guys will be guys", "You can only live your life once" and "Body no be wood".He always said it is the normal way of Life.On the way from the club one night while driving, he was drunk and died in a terrible car accident.
This is another story of a young lady that was badly beaten by her boyfriend and she said, he loves me.She slept with him regularly because she wanted to keep him.She even got pregnant for the same loving boyfriend and he was just not interested anymore.
A girl was raped while she was young, she now had regular sexual urges, she then started masturbating.As she grew older,guys were attracted to her, she started sleeping with them, believing that she was hurting them and who cares she was collecting their money.
Points:
1) Some guys say,it is normal to have sex, drink, smoke and club.
2) Some guys/men believe in beating and abusing women
3) Some girls believe in keeping a guy by having sex with him
4) Some people say girls that get pregnant are not smart
5) Some guys don't take responsibility for pregnancies
6) Rape is quite rampant now and those involved are stigmatised most of the time and they usually don't share their experiences
Questions To Ask Yourself:
1) What do you want to be known for?
2) Do you do things because everyone is doing it?
3) Do you have Self-confidence?
Lessons:
Everyone has a past, but the choices you make determine your future.True Success is when you impact lives positively,despite all the limitations, you have to take conscious steps in doing the right thing.
Please Remember, Not everyone is doing it.
Yes You Can:
Say No To sex outside of marriage
Say No To drinking alcohol,smoking and clubbing
Say No to beating or abusing a woman
Rise above the stigma and limitation of Rape
Choose to be responsible
Rise Up when you fall
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Saturday, 26 January 2013
Thursday, 24 January 2013
What Are Friends For?
This is an incident that occurred very recently.There are two very close friends, one is engaged, the other is married.
On this fateful day in their room, the lady that was married woke up in the middle of the night, she could not breathe well and she could not sleep.There was a third person in the room that was praying, she gave her a drug to take to relieve her breathing problem and she continued praying.
The lady that is engaged woke up and saw her friend not breathing well.She stood up, went beside her and prayed for her. After a while, she started breathing well and she slept off.
Points:
1) The two ladies are close
2) The third person in the room gave her a drug to relieve her breathing problem
3) Her very close friend prayed for her
Questions You Need To Ask Yourself:
Who are your friends?
Do they influence you positively or negatively?
Are your friends willing to sacrifice for you?
Are they just friends for fun, party and gist?
The Truth Is Your Life And The Outcome Of Your Life Is Important In The Fulfillment Of Purpose.Therefore,
You must choose your friends Wisely
You must not be sentimental in making your choice of a friend
You need friends that will stick close to you
You need friends that Love you and will always tell you the truth
You need friends that can sacrifice
A proverb Says: A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly; and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.This means that you have to be friendly yourself and you cannot have too many friends.
For you to have a friend that has these characteristics, then you must be a Good friend yourself.
For example, I tell my friends that I should be able to tell them if I have done something wrong, they will correct me and still love me.
I know it is sometimes hard to trust or find good friends, you need good friends.but you have to be a good friend yourself, then you will find those you can call good friends.
Please even if people betray you, keep on Doing good.The reward is enormous.
Yes You Can:
Be A Good Friend
Be A Loving Friend
Be A Prayerful Friend
Be A Helpful Friend
Be An Impactful Friend
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On this fateful day in their room, the lady that was married woke up in the middle of the night, she could not breathe well and she could not sleep.There was a third person in the room that was praying, she gave her a drug to take to relieve her breathing problem and she continued praying.
The lady that is engaged woke up and saw her friend not breathing well.She stood up, went beside her and prayed for her. After a while, she started breathing well and she slept off.
Points:
1) The two ladies are close
2) The third person in the room gave her a drug to relieve her breathing problem
3) Her very close friend prayed for her
Questions You Need To Ask Yourself:
Who are your friends?
Do they influence you positively or negatively?
Are your friends willing to sacrifice for you?
Are they just friends for fun, party and gist?
The Truth Is Your Life And The Outcome Of Your Life Is Important In The Fulfillment Of Purpose.Therefore,
You must choose your friends Wisely
You must not be sentimental in making your choice of a friend
You need friends that will stick close to you
You need friends that Love you and will always tell you the truth
You need friends that can sacrifice
A proverb Says: A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly; and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.This means that you have to be friendly yourself and you cannot have too many friends.
For you to have a friend that has these characteristics, then you must be a Good friend yourself.
For example, I tell my friends that I should be able to tell them if I have done something wrong, they will correct me and still love me.
I know it is sometimes hard to trust or find good friends, you need good friends.but you have to be a good friend yourself, then you will find those you can call good friends.
Please even if people betray you, keep on Doing good.The reward is enormous.
Yes You Can:
Be A Good Friend
Be A Loving Friend
Be A Prayerful Friend
Be A Helpful Friend
Be An Impactful Friend
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Naivety Of A Girl
This is the story of a girl from a broken home, she had the free will to go out. She met this guy at an eatery in Ikeja.This guy was with his two friends,he was dark, handsome and tall. She thought he was someone she knew, but she was wrong, they exchanged numbers and he left.
The next thing, she received a call from the guy asking if she had left the eatery and he asked her if she could visit him at his place. She did not go that day, but she went on a weekend.
He tried to play as a nice host, they talked about business, family etc. The guy took the lady to his room, and the discussion changed to " Let's Have Sex". She resisted and said No, he now said Let's have something close to sex and she eventually agreed.
She left his house feeling very guilty and empty inside her. She never went there again.
Points:
1) She should have left the guy immediately at the eatery when she realised he was not someone she knew.
2) There was no need to exchange numbers
3) She should have spoken to a wise and elderly person about the guy.
4) There was no need to go to his house, enter his room.
Lessons: A girl from a broken may have more liberty to do things or go out.the girl child might feel lonely,may be in desperate need of Love,Acceptanace And Selfworth.
This can be channelled into going to wrong places, meeting the wrong people and getting engaged in the wrong activities.
Therefore, instead of feeling better, you get temporary excitement or pleasure, leaving you with the feeling of being empty. Then overtime your heart gets hardened and you don't send.
Also, sometimes there is really no one you can talk to, your parents are seperated or divorced,everybody is busy with their own activities.You are left with the option of talking to your peers or making a decision.
Despite the fact that you are from a broken home, The Truth Is:
As a girl,you can make the right the decision concerning any issue
You can follow the right friends
You can go to the right places
You can be involved in the right activities
The question is now, how,why, when and where?
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The next thing, she received a call from the guy asking if she had left the eatery and he asked her if she could visit him at his place. She did not go that day, but she went on a weekend.
He tried to play as a nice host, they talked about business, family etc. The guy took the lady to his room, and the discussion changed to " Let's Have Sex". She resisted and said No, he now said Let's have something close to sex and she eventually agreed.
She left his house feeling very guilty and empty inside her. She never went there again.
Points:
1) She should have left the guy immediately at the eatery when she realised he was not someone she knew.
2) There was no need to exchange numbers
3) She should have spoken to a wise and elderly person about the guy.
4) There was no need to go to his house, enter his room.
Lessons: A girl from a broken may have more liberty to do things or go out.the girl child might feel lonely,may be in desperate need of Love,Acceptanace And Selfworth.
This can be channelled into going to wrong places, meeting the wrong people and getting engaged in the wrong activities.
Therefore, instead of feeling better, you get temporary excitement or pleasure, leaving you with the feeling of being empty. Then overtime your heart gets hardened and you don't send.
Also, sometimes there is really no one you can talk to, your parents are seperated or divorced,everybody is busy with their own activities.You are left with the option of talking to your peers or making a decision.
Despite the fact that you are from a broken home, The Truth Is:
As a girl,you can make the right the decision concerning any issue
You can follow the right friends
You can go to the right places
You can be involved in the right activities
The question is now, how,why, when and where?
Watch Out For My Next Article.
Please feel free to comment, ask questions, seek advice, send me a story, share this story to your family and friends and.You can also share your testimonies.
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Wednesday, 23 January 2013
Its Just Starting....
I read the news about a mother defending her son why he could not have killed his wife.She also said that they were not to get married,but she got pregnant.
There are people that believe you can beat or abuse your wife and the children.Some people believe oral sex, masturbation and anal sex is right.
Girls or guys can be raped, but they are advised or too scared to talk about it.
Some people are broke and there is no one to share the hard times with.
Some are going through challenges in their relationships,marriages,etc and its all been bottled up.
Some people are scared for the future(Fear of the unknown) and they get depressed about it.
Some parents can discipline their children,but cannot express love to their children.
Some children can talk to their peers about almost anything, but cannot talk to their parents,guardians,teachers about issues that pertain to them spiritually,physically,emotionally,financially etc.
Some people have been betrayed by family,friends,etc and they just can't get over it.
Finally,we have been faced by different limitations in our lives at different times and these affect our thinking and action pattern.
Join me as I discuss on various issues that affect our lives,families,relationships and many more.I will be sharing with you relevant stories,outline the problems and profer solutions to them.
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