Tuesday, 27 August 2013

Why Do Nigerians Die? – Bibobrah Emretane




As one who has seen the temporal nature of life in the course of my journey through medical school; one who has witnessed the sleight dexterity of mortality’s strong hands; one who has heard muted breaths, seen eyes wide shut and experienced the tumultuous outpouring of grief, I stared at the computer screen and thought long and hard about this title, Why do we die? Yes, why do people die? It might seem like a question oozing from the pores of an existentialist thinker. My numb mind tried to find an answer. Or maybe answers. But my mind was tabula rasa, like a bare whiteboard. Suddenly, then I realized that there isn't any one answer. Again, maybe the answer isn't direct like when a patient dies and the family asks, “why did he die doctor”? or “why did we lose him”? The answer isn't that his heart stopped or that the cancer spread to his brain. The answer sometimes is a story, a story I wish wasn't real.

I would start from the fact that we are born as Nigerians, the largest concentration of black people in the world. A land of promise, one stuffed with abundant resources from above and underneath the hard earth. I love my country but I guess it’s a story for another day. We don't choose our families and they don't choose us. If you are lucky to be born to an educated, middle class (and above) family then your story may be slightly different.
If not, your tale may begin from day one!

'Poverty is a carcinogen', I didn't come up with that myself (though I wish I had). It’s a statement that has been in my head since I heard it for the first time in a lecture on cervical cancer. Talking about cancer, it’s become a silent killer in the land today. However, I'd like to rephrase that aphorism - poverty is not just a carcinogen, it’s a pathogen, a cankerworm, a thief and a murderer! It’s one of the reasons my people die. Poverty might have become the number one cause of death among many Nigerians.
I say this because I've seen it first hand, poverty and her younger sister, Ignorance.

We lash out at the unemployed mother who brought her child to the emergency room after stooling and vomiting for three days. We tell her that her child is gone and somewhere amidst the chaos that ensued you wonder whether she had ever heard of the life saving salt sugar solution. We wonder if she knew that it was her lack of knowledge, her insidious expression of ignorance that killed the child. And then, you caution yourself. You also follow up with a pertinent
question - Is it her fault that she is poor? Her only crime being that she felt government hospitals were a last resort and believed so strongly in Mama Bola’s remedy for diarrhea. After all, Mama Bola had some bragging rights. She has had seven children. Before you can mourn the dead, they bring in another child who didn't cry at birth. This is her third day of life. You begin to wonder where she was born. If they knew that a child's cry was indeed her first breath of life. Then you remember it’s an answer you know all too well. She was born in a traditional birth attendant home. Well, kindly try to fill in the gaps.
The parents look agitated but you caution yourself not judge them...

'Time of death - 9.42 pm'.
And yet they cry and wail, “death stole our children”! “Death is wicked”.
Those who scale through their childhood years have ready made health problems especially for adults; hypertension, diabetes, cancer etc. A sad trend is that when people begin to seek healthcare, the time has already ticked and its countdown to doomsday.  For the single mother who sells at Yaba, she just had to ignore the breast lump. After all it wasn't painful. “Na just one small thing. E no matter”, she mutters to herself. If she wanted to go to the health center she had to sell off all her tomatoes from the day before, no one would buy stale ones. She had to find somewhere to keep ‘Bom boy'. She doesn’t trust her co-tenants with her pot of soup, let alone her only son. The lump would have to wait, but in waiting it grew, until the smell from the ulcer it had created warded off customers. By that time, she was told it was too late. Why then did Mama Bom Boy Die?

Ahhh, for the danger of telling a single story, Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie warns. The danger of presenting a single narrative that obscures the complexities of the system. Painting a Nigeria where poverty is everyone's friend and sickness and disease are close relatives. This scenario won’t be a fair portrayal. There are poor people in Nigeria but there are also poor people anywhere else in the world. The diseases of the rich are here as well, indeed the rich also cry and sadly, they also die. Cancer, Heart diseases ,Hypertension, Road traffic accidents kill, sometimes they don't even look at socio-economic class before they attack.

So then why do Nigerians die? The more I try to answer the question, the more questions keep pouring in like pop-up windows on an internet explorer. They come in torrents - why do we lack knowledge? Why is the average life expectancy about fifty years? Why are there so many people living on less than a dollar a day? Why is there an economic gulf and social dichotomy between the North and the South? Why are there so few doctors compared to the large and teeming population? Who is brain drain and why is it swallowing all our healthcare professionals?

I believe we can all have a better chance at living, rich or poor, if good governance meant good governance. Would it not be nice, if free education was at an acceptable standard, available and compulsory for all? What if there were more industries ready to employ our youth. What if good health care is affordable, available, and accessible for all? Imagine that we were enlightened to seek care and do so early. Can you picture in your mind’s eye that the transportation network were upgraded all around the country not just in Lagos, Port Harcourt, Benin or Abuja.

Death and life unite us, rich or poor. Perhaps, this Latin dictum would serve us all too well; Vivere disce, cogita mori - Learn to live; Remember death. And in remembrance of death, the question still craves for an answer - why do Nigerians die? 

Written By : Dr Bibobrah Emretane

Monday, 26 August 2013

Women Be Wise...


I live in a third world country, where women are seen as below men. Let me give you an example, it is not bad if the man cheats, people will say, especially to the woman, that he is a man and she should bear with him. 

Friday, 23 August 2013

How To Avoid 419 Trap In Nigeria.




This is getting very rampant in Nigeria. I am writing on one of the ways at which these guys operate. One common way is that they use a private vehicle for commercial purpose, well at least to me, because I have entered their traps a few times. There are usually three people ( two men and a woman) in the private vehicle, the driver, the passenger at the front seat, then a third person at the back. 

Inferiority Complex




I was on Unilag radio 103.1fm yesterday to speak on inferiority complex; I will like to share some information on this topic. First of all the definition of inferiority complex:

Monday, 19 August 2013

Thank God It's Monday



How is your Monday going? I trust you have had a great day so far.

With less than 140 days to the end of 2013, it is important to ensure we are spending most of our time on 'what matters most'.

Today, I'd like to share a thought on something I heard a while back that helped me a lot.

Reality Check For Personal and Effective CHANGE


Reality check is when you face yourself and ask yourself important questions such as;

I PLEAD WITH THE NIGERIAN STUDENTS





I plead with the Nigerian students not to get frustrated, angry and depressed, especially those in the higher institutions. Even though the strike is getting too long, they should not make any erratic decision.

 I am using this medium to let you know that, you can make use of this time to study for exams, discover yourself, outline on paper your vision and goals, state with specific time when you want to achieve your stated goals and learn new skills. 

Thursday, 15 August 2013

What This Generation Needs.





I have seen a lot of people fall short of their potentials. This might be due to negative situations faced in the past and in this present day. Another reason might be that some people are waiting for things to happen, change and get better, instead of them rising up and be the change that they desire/need.

Wednesday, 14 August 2013

Smile

Hi,


There's one subject that can't be discussed in a day and I'll try not to make it a series.
Today's Tip: Smile


Frown and you frown alone, but smile and the whole world smiles with you. Not just any smile will do, though.

With 19 variations on the smile, including 16 produced by enjoyable emotions, smiling is an incredibly important part of our lives. If you're looking to develop a genuine, infectious smile that can make a bad date turn good, seal a business deal, or help you make friends wherever you go, this post will help you on your way. It's fun, fast, and easy! But best of all, it's a natural way to make yourself and others feel really good.

A Smile improves your appearance."A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks". All you need to do is think about how you feel about a person who is frowning and a person who is smiling – who tends to be the better looking person?

Smiles make things right again and say much more than words can. If you've goofed, said something less than complimentary, feel lost or alone, or feel down, a smile can set things right again.

Smiles make you feel good. Even if you're feeling a little blue, insert happy thoughts into your mind and just add that smile. The smile will trick your mind into feeling better, as endorphins are released to reduce physical or emotional stress.

Ensure you smile today.

Have great smiling day.

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Monday, 12 August 2013

The Men Who Built NIGERIA


 
Thank God It's Monday       
 
Good Day,

Okay, so I started watching a documentary on 'The Men who built America' yesterday evening. I'm talking about John D. Rockefeller, Andrew Carnegie, e.t.c.

These men existed many decades ago but their stories of courage and vision permanently placed their names on the history of America. For most of them, they grew up in poor homes yet they accomplished great feats that distinguished them in life.

While watching it, a thought crossed my mind.

 Fast-forward to December 2025...

By then, Nigeria is the most Desirable nation to live in.

From a story of violence, corruption and threats of disintegration, a strong and formidable nation has risen. Of course, it did not just happen. Some people chose to make it happen. One of them, a gentleman called Jimi Tewe (why are you smiling? Don't you believe?)

That thought gave me a fresh boost to keep at what I am doing, 'addressing the issues of employability & self actualization in Africa's youth'.

Guess what? Your name can also be listed in one of the leading documentaries or history books in a few decades from today. It will not happen if you merely exist. It will be the result of your conscious decision to make a difference.

'What difference can I make?', you may ask me.

Listen to this...

Your area of dissatisfaction in our nation is a major key to our national transformation. Your failure to act positively on your dissatisfaction will only increase your personal frustration and the nation's tribulations.

Start with that idea you have. Start from the place where you are. Start with that next decision you are about to make. Start with that first step you need to take.

The MEN (and WOMEN) who built Nigeria! I believe you are one of them.
 
You can watch my interview with Mo Abudu on 'Moments with Mo' on EbonyLife TV (DSTV channel 165) tomorrow (Aug 13) by 8.30pm & Wednesday (Aug 14) 11.30am

It's going to be a great week for you.

Jimi Tewe


Get Ahead


Good Day To You,

I just thought to quickly remind you that there is a future for you, in fact a glorious one decked with lots of goodies. But here is the question, how sure are you that you will not MISS this future?

People that will not miss the future will do 4 things:

1. They find out what they are here on earth to do?

2. They find out the price to pay to get it done.

3. They resolve in there heart to pay the price no matter what.

4. They ask their maker (God) to help them get there.

 That's all you need in order not to miss the FUTURE. Say to your self this Monday, I won't miss the future!

 #Getaheadonmonday# samNAIKE.

ff: @naikesam

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Wednesday, 7 August 2013

Happy Holiday...




The past two months have been very wonderful. I have learnt new things from some of the world’s greatest people; it feels good to have two days of public holiday. 

As we start this holiday, I want to share some of the things I've learnt over two months.

-         - Know and write your vision

-         -  Aim very high

-         - Write down your goals

- Write the time when you want to achieve your goals. For example, what do you want to achieve before the end of 2013?

-         - How are you working towards your goals?

-         -  Believe in yourself, because no one can be exactly like you.

-         -  Be humble, polite and respectful

-         -  Gain knowledge. Therefore, read, attend seminars and listen to inspirational messages

-         -  If there will going be down-sizing in the company and you are scared of disengagement, then it means you are not valuable to the company. Every organization will keep his or her valuable player(s).

     - Be hard-working

-        -  Be truthful

-        -  Stand for what is right

-         -   Never give up

       
        HAPPY HOLIDAY !!!



Friday, 2 August 2013

The Royal Baby

    
It is no longer news that baby; Prince George Alexander Louis has caused so much news and excitement for both his parents and the whole of England.

The fuss about the baby that was going to be born and the aftermath of his birth might look trivial to people, but in reality, this baby is special, because:

a.) He is created by God
b.) He is born into a royal family
c.) He is third in line to the throne

Royal blue: Members of the public gather outside Buckingham Palace after an easel was p Royal blue: The CN Tower is illuminated in blue light, in Toronto, Canada 
The excitement and merriment was expected. Personally, I was very happy about the royal baby, but something came to my mind and I decided to write this article.Lets imagine if every baby born into this world had this much paparazzi.It will be so wonderful.The royal baby will grow up with so much love, discipline, etiquette, boost in self-esteem and wealth. 

I want to focus much on the attention that the parents and members of household will give the child. The child will be taught on how to behave like royalty in all aspects of his life.

Your baby might not receive as much attention from the world, but I want to encourage parents and parents to be to follow these tips below in order to make the child special;

1.) Start speaking and confessing right words about your unborn child and do this after the birth (This is a continuous process).For example, my child will be respectful, loving and great.

2.) Show love to the child, by praying, speaking positively, hugging, and encouraging the child

3.) Let the child know that you are excited to have him or her. This doesn’t mean that you will spoil the child.

4.) Let the child know that you are his or her greatest fan

5.) Boost the child’s self-esteem by telling the child of God’s love. For example, Baby Olu you are loved by God, you are God’s best, no one can be like you; you are special to God and this family.

6.) Even though, the family might be going through challenges, don’t pour out the anger or frustration on the child. Speak to the child in a loving manner, let the child understand what’s going on and encourage the child to be content.

7.) Remember, the child did not ask to be born, God has given you this gift, appreciate God for this gift by loving and providing for the child.

8.) Lead by example.

9.) As much as you show love to the child, remember to discipline the child when necessary. Train up a child in the way of the Lord, when he grows old, he will not depart from it.

10.) As a parent, your words are very powerful. Therefore, do not use abusive words. For example, you call a child stupid or idiot, before you know it the child will start behaving as you have proclaimed.

Finally, I am emphasizing on love, affection, care, discipline, encouragement and motivation to the child. The above tips will help and prevent the child from been influenced negatively by people, media, environment, etc.

I Speak To Future Leaders

I Believe In Future Leaders

Gracias